BDSM Tests and BDSM Test Results explained – Understand your BDSM personality

What are the best BDSM tests and what do the results tell you? Here are the best tests incl. an extended explanation of the different roles and archetypes of the most common tests.

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BDSM is an umbrella term for a variety of (often erotic) practices or roleplaying that encompasses Bondage & Discipline (BD), Dominance & Submission (DS), and Sadism & Masochism (SM). It can also include other ‘deviant’ sexual practices. It is important to note that consent is at the core of BDSM, separating it from sexual and domestic abuse. Taking a BDSM test can be a useful tool to better understand one’s own kinks and preferences. It can be an effective way to explore different aspects of BDSM and identify where one falls on the spectrum, providing a starting point for further exploration and communication with partners.

What is a BDSM test?

A BDSM test is usually an online questionnaire that helps people understand their sexual preferences, especially those related to BDSM (Bondage, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism). BDSM is a broad term used to describe a range of sexual activities that include elements of power dynamics, physical pain, bondage, role play, sexual and non-sexual activities and similar concepts.

The test usually consists of a series of questions about a person’s sexual interests and inclinations. Participants answer each question based on their personal preferences, desires and experiences. These tests are usually anonymous and confidential and can be done in private.

The goal of a BDSM test is to find out where they are on the BDSM spectrum. The results can reveal whether someone is more inclined towards dominance or submission, sadism or masochism, bondage and other elements of BDSM. It can also reveal whether someone is not very interested in these areas at all.

It is important to note that these tests are not definitive or exhaustive. They are tools to facilitate self-knowledge and communication about sexual preferences. The results should be used as a guide for personal understanding and conversation, not as a label or determination of identity.

People taking these tests should always remember that everyone’s sexual preferences are unique and that it is important that BDSM activities are consensual, negotiated and safe for all involved. Remember that the basic principle of BDSM activities is “safe, reasonable and consensual”, i.e. all activities should be safe, sane and approved by all parties involved.

Best BDSM Tests

There are hundreds of BDSM tests online and in magazines. In the end they are all only a “hint” and not a scientific method. Important to understand is also that these tests only ask for the current status. Because the more you experience, the more you will understand and finally your desires and fetishes will also change with time and experience. So take all of these tests as a “hint in the right direction” but not an “absolute and final result”.

Generally I would recommend taking one of these two tests:

You might also find shorter versions in BDSM communities like Fetisch.com or BDSM dating apps, but in general I would stick to the mentioned tests above. Because most active members of the BDSM scene already took the test and you can compare your compatibility and find out if you have a fit with your significant other.

If you want to know my test results, then read “About me“. This also changed a lot over the years and I am still exploring.

Understanding the BDSM Test Results – Archetypes & Roles

Everyone is different, and finding two “kinksters” with the exact same preferences is probably impossible. However, there are a few common ‘archetypes’ that people can identify with to varying degrees. The list below is by no means complete but it should cover the most common ones. Also read my article: BDSM Roles explained – 15 most common Roles

Dominant

Dominants take on a leadership role in BDSM activities and enjoy the power dynamics of being in charge. They may enjoy obedience, power exchange, and service from their partners. They may also be dominant in other aspects of their lives, not just in the bedroom. Dominants often set boundaries and limits for their partners and may also be responsible for ensuring the safety and well-being of their partners during BDSM activities.

Here are five examples of what a dominant might do:

  1. Control or direct the submissive’s behavior and activities, such as setting rules and expectations for behavior and appearance.
  2. Provide physical and psychological stimulation, such as spanking, choking, or role-playing.
  3. Act as a teacher or mentor, guiding the submissive in developing new skills or exploring new interests.
  4. Make decisions on behalf of the submissive, such as negotiating boundaries and arranging playdates.
  5. Offer emotional support and comfort, such as through aftercare or providing comfort in difficult situations.

Submissive

A submissive is a person who takes on a subservient role in a BDSM relationship. They may submit to the dominant partner’s control and direction in a variety of ways, including sexual activities, personal relationships, and other aspects of their life. A submissive may also seek pleasure and fulfillment from serving and pleasing the dominant. They may have a strong desire to please and serve their partners and often have a strong trust and bond with their Dominant partner.

Here are five examples of what a submissive might do:

  1. Follow the rules and expectations the dominant sets, such as maintaining a certain appearance or behavior.
  2. Engage in physical and sexual activities as directed by the dominant, such as submitting to spanking, choking, or other forms of stimulation.
  3. Seek guidance and mentorship from the dominant, such as learning new skills or exploring new interests.
  4. Defer decision-making to the dominant, such as allowing them to negotiate boundaries and arrange playdates.
  5. Provide support and comfort to the dominant, such as servitude, chores, or being a sounding board in difficult situations.

Sadist

A sadist is a person who takes pleasure in causing pain, suffering, or humiliation to others in a BDSM context. They may enjoy inflicting physical or emotional pain, or both, on their partners, who are typically submissive or masochistic. Sadism is a form of dominance and control, and the sadist may derive pleasure from their power and control over their partner. Sadists often deeply understand pain and safety and may enjoy exploring different types of pain, such as impact play, sensation play, and more.

Here are five examples of what a sadist might do:

  1. Inflict physical pain on their partner through spanking, whipping, or other forms of BDSM play.
  2. Control and manipulate their partner emotionally through humiliation, degradation, or other forms of psychological play.
  3. Plan and execute BDSM scenes, such as those involving restraint or sensory deprivation.
  4. Negotiate boundaries and limits with their partner, such as setting limits on acceptable play types.
  5. Provide aftercare for their partner, such as comforting and nurturing them after a BDSM session.

Masochist

A masochist is a person who takes pleasure in receiving pain, suffering, or humiliation in a BDSM context. They may enjoy submitting to a dominant partner, who may inflict physical or emotional pain, or both, on them. Masochism is a form of surrender and submission, and the masochist may derive pleasure from surrendering control and power to their partner. They enjoy the sensation of pain and the release of endorphins that come with it.

Here are five examples of what a masochist might do:

  1. Receive physical pain from their partner, such as through spanking, whipping, caning, tunnel play, or other forms of BDSM play.
  2. Submit to emotional manipulation or control from their partner, such as through humiliation, degradation, or other forms of psychological play.
  3. Agree to participate in BDSM scenes, such as those involving restraint or sensory deprivation.
  4. Communicate boundaries and limits to their partner as well.
  5. Animate someone to inflict pain, such as playing a brat, breaking the rules, and animating a sadist or dom to discipline them.

Rigger

A rigger in a BDSM context is someone responsible for tying, binding, or suspending their partner. They may use ropes, chains, or other restraints to restrict their partner’s movement, either for pleasure or for play. Rigging can be a form of power exchange and involve a wide range of activities, from simple rope play, chains, handcuffs to more complex suspensions or constructions from wood and metal.

See also: Bondage explained – A Beginners Guide to Different Styles, Techniques, and Safety Measures

Here are five examples of what a rigger might do:

  1. Tie their partner in intricate knots, such as Japanese-style rope bondage.
  2. Using ropes or other restraints, suspend their partner from the ceiling or other structures.
  3. Use different types of restraints, such as handcuffs, shackles, chains, metal devices, or spreader bars, to restrict their partner’s movement.
  4. Collaborate with their partner to create scenes that involve rope play, bondage, or suspension.
  5. Ensure the safety and comfort of their partner during BDSM play, using different measures to mitigate risk.

Rope bunny

A rope bunny is someone in a BDSM context who enjoys being tied up or restrained by their partner, usually a rigger. They may enjoy the sensation of being bound and the loss of control that comes with it, as well as the physical and psychological sensations associated with rope play. This is why the sensation of being entirely at the mercy of their partners, feeling restricted in the movement, or also feeling helpless is at the core of rope bunnies sensations.

Here are five examples of what a rope bunny might do:

  1. Submit to being tied up or suspended by their partner (Rigger)
  2. Explore different types of ropes, restraints, and knots used in BDSM play.
  3. Communicate their boundaries and preferences to their partner, such as what types of restraints they prefer or dislike.
  4. Participate in bondage and suspension scenes with their partner, either in a private setting or in a public play space.
  5. Experiment with different types of rope play and BDSM activities, such as rope art, rope torture, or rope suspension.

Master/Mistress

A Master or Mistress is someone who takes on a dominant role in BDSM relationships and scenes and enjoy (complete) control over the life of their slaves. They may control their submissive partner in various ways, from directing their actions and decisions to providing discipline and punishment. They control a part of the life of the slave, like sexuality, or completely control the life of the slave in TPE and 24/7 contexts and take on all responsibilities that come with it. Masters and Mistresses may have a dominant personality and enjoy exerting control over their partner, or they may enjoy the power dynamic and exploration of BDSM activities.

Here are five examples of what a Master or Mistress might do:

  1. Direct and control their submissive partner in BDSM scenes, relationships, or life (24/7).
  2. Provide discipline, punishment, or rewards to their partner, depending on their behaviors or obedience.
  3. Set rules and boundaries for their submissive partner to follow in a sexual context or life (24/7)
  4. Explore different BDSM activities with their partner, such as bondage, spanking, or role-playing.
  5. Foster a deep connection and trust with their submissive partner through communication and negotiation of boundaries, limits, and safety.

Slave

A slave takes on a submissive role in BDSM relationships and scenes, which is going deeper. They may surrender control to their Master or Mistress, allowing them to make decisions and direct their actions in a sexual context (EPE) or about their life (TPE or 24/7). Slaves may have a submissive personality and enjoy serving and pleasing their dominant partner, or they may simply enjoy the power dynamic and exploration of BDSM activities. Slaves may live in a 24/7 power exchange relationship and focus on serving their Master/Mistress completely and being “owned“.

Here are five examples of what a slave might do:

  1. Follow the orders and instructions of their Master or Mistress in BDSM scenes or relationships.
  2. Surrender control of their decisions and actions to their dominant partner.
  3. Accept discipline, punishment, or rewards from their Master or Mistress, depending on their behaviors or obedience.
  4. Adhere to the rules and boundaries set by their dominant partner.
  5. Foster a deep connection and trust with their Master or Mistress, please him/her, be proactive about the needs of the dominant partner.

Degrader

A degrader takes on the role of demeaning or debasing their partner in BDSM scenes or relationships. They may engage in activities or language intended to make their partner feel humiliated or insulted, or force them into submission by making them small and worthless.

Here are five examples of what a degrader might do:

  1. Use humiliation or degradation language during BDSM scenes or relationships, such as insults, name-calling, or demeaning statements.
  2. Engage in activities that are meant to humiliate their partner, such as exposing them publicly, making them perform embarrassing tasks, or forcing them into uncomfortable positions.
  3. Act as a dominant or control-seeker in BDSM scenes, directing their partner’s actions and decisions and seeking to maintain their power dynamic.
  4. Set up tasks or rules for their partner meant to be degrading or humbling, such as making them do chores in the nude or using them as an object for sexual pleasure.
  5. Use their partner’s submission to exert power over them, often pushing their boundaries and limits to maintain their dominant status.

Degradee

A degradee takes on the role of being degraded or humiliated in BDSM scenes or relationships. They may willingly submit to the actions and decisions of their partner, allowing themselves to be degraded, insulted and exposed for their own pleasure or the pleasure of their partner. 

Here are five examples of what a degradee might do:

  1. Agree to engage in activities or language meant to humiliate or debase them, such as being exposed publicly, performing embarrassing tasks, or being forced into uncomfortable positions.
  2. Take on a submissive role in BDSM scenes, allowing their partner to direct their actions and decisions and surrendering control to them.
  3. Seek out partners who enjoy degradation or humiliation, seeking to fulfill their desire for submission and surrender.
  4. Participate in tasks or rules set by their partner meant to be degrading or humbling, such as doing chores in the nude or serving as an object for sexual pleasure.
  5. Allow themselves to be used by their partner to exert power over them, often pushing their boundaries and limits to satisfy their partner’s dominant status.

Owner

An Owner takes on the dominant role of owning and controlling another person, typically their property, slave, pet, or submissive. An Owner may assert their power over their submissive in various ways, ranging from physical and sexual control to decision-making and overall lifestyle management. Owners typically have a more intense relationship with their slaves as they possess the “ownership” of someone, which gives them more power and control.

Here are five examples of what an Owner might do:

  1. Make decisions and dictate their submissive’s behavior, actions, and appearance.
  2. Assert physical control over their submissive, such as restraining them or administering punishments.
  3. Exercise sexual control over their submissive, deciding when and how they will engage in sexual activity.
  4. Control their submissive’s daily activities and lifestyle, including tasks, schedules, and interactions with others.
  5. Communicate and enforce expectations and boundaries, requiring their submissive to comply with strict rules and consequences for disobedience.

Pet

A Pet is a submissive who takes on a non-human animal-like role, serving and obeying its dominant or Owner. Pets are also the property of their Owner. This role play can involve acting out certain animalistic behaviors, such as crawling, barking, or meowing, and may also involve physical modifications, such as wearing a collar or tail. They may not necessarily involve sexuality but may involve role-play attributes such as a cage for a pet.

Here are five examples of what a Pet might do:

  1. Act out specific animalistic behaviors, such as crawling, barking, or meowing, in response to commands from their Owner.
  2. Wear a collar or other pet-like clothing or accessories to reinforce the role play.
  3. Respond to commands from their Owner, such as fetching objects or performing tricks.
  4. Participate in physical and sexual play, such as being taken for walks or playing with toys.
  5. Follow strict rules and protocols, such as eating from a bowl or sleeping in a designated area or cage.

Brat Tamer

A Brat Tamer is a dominant figure in the BDSM community who is skilled in dealing with bratty or mischievous submissives and enjoys disciplining. The role involves setting boundaries, establishing rules, and disciplining submissives who push their limits or act out in a playful or challenging manner. Important to note: They find disobedience a form of playfulness rather than rudeness and will teach the submissive a well-deserved lesson.

Here are five examples of what a Brat Tamer might do:

  1. Set clear boundaries and rules for submissives, such as no physical or emotional harm, and enforce these rules through discipline.
  2. Act as a mentor and teacher, helping submissives develop and improve their submissive skills and behaviors.
  3. Use various forms of discipline, such as spanking or restraints, to correct misbehavior and reinforce rules.
  4. Engage in play and sexual activities, such as impact play, with submissives, often focusing on helping them better understand and embrace their submissive roles.
  5. Provide guidance and support to submissives, helping them grow and develop in their submissive roles and keep them safe and protected from harm.

Brat

A brat in the BDSM context refers to a submissive who enjoys acting mischievously or demandingly, often testing the limits of the dominant. This type of behavior is often seen as playful and is a way for the submissive to assert their own power within the relationship. The brat continually seeks attention and wants to challenge the dominant to prove their dominance. Still, it is essential that a brat finds a suitable dominant, as this dynamic can also end with the dominant finding it “rude” instead of playful.

Here are five examples of what a brat might do:

  1. Refusing to follow orders or instructions and “acting up” in scenes, challenging the dom.
  2. Pushing boundaries in a playful or provocative manner
  3. Being overly demanding or making unreasonable requests 
  4. Acting in a bratty or childish manner to provoke the dominant
  5. Engaging in teasing or taunting behavior to test the dominant’s limits.

Primal (Hunter)

A Primal (Hunter) is a dominant who takes on a primal, animalistic role, pursuing and capturing their submissive or the so-called “prey.” This role play can involve acting out hunting or predator behaviors, such as stalking, chasing, and capturing their prey. Primal Hunters enjoy letting their natural instincts out during sex. They focus on raw, emotional, sexual feelings during play.

Here are five examples of what a Primal (Hunter) might do:

  1. Act out hunting or predator behaviors, such as stalking, chasing, and capturing their prey.
  2. Engage in physical and sexual play, such as tying up or restraining their prey.
  3. Take charge in the dynamic, asserting dominance and control over their prey.
  4. Use physical and psychological tactics to exert control over their prey.
  5. Seek to satisfy their primal instincts, such as the desire for control and dominance, through role-play.

Primal (Prey)

A Primal (Prey) is a submissive who takes on the role of being hunted and captured by their dominant, the Primal (Hunter). This role play can involve acting out submissive or prey behaviors, such as being chased, caught, and controlled by their hunter. This can be by dressing up sexy to provoke the hunter, running away, resisting, or other forms of animalistic prey behavior’s. Prey submissives often focus on raw, emotional, sexual feelings during play.

Here are five examples of what a Primal (Prey) might do:

  1. Act out submissive or prey behaviors, such as being chased, caught, and controlled by their hunter.
  2. Submit to physical and sexual play, such as being tied up or restrained after being “captured”.
  3. Give up control and surrender to the will of their hunter.
  4. Enjoy the thrill of being hunted and the rush of adrenaline that comes with it.
  5. Seek to satisfy their primal instincts, such as the desire for submission and surrender, through role play.

Daddy/Mommy

A Daddy or Mommy is used in BDSM to describe someone who takes on the role of a parental figure. This can be a dominant or a nurturing figure (or both) who provides care and guidance to their partner, who may take on the role of a child or a submissive. They use subtle psychological mechanisms rather than brute power to nurture their submissives and usually have a very caring side.

Here are five examples of what a Daddy or Mommy might do:

  1. Provide care and guidance to their partner, including setting boundaries, offering support, and helping them navigate BDSM scenes and relationships.
  2. Take on a dominant role in BDSM scenes, directing the actions and decisions of their partner and exerting control over them.
  3. Engage in age-play, where the Daddy or Mommy takes on a parental role, and their partner takes on the role of a child.
  4. Provide discipline and structure, helping their partner develop discipline, obedience, and respect for boundaries.
  5. Offer affection, comfort, and security to their partner, helping them feel safe and protected within the BDSM relationship.

Boy/Girl

A Boy or Girl in BDSM refers to someone who takes on the submissive role and presents themselves as younger or more innocent than their dominant partner, who may take on the role of a Daddy or Mommy. A Boy/Girl refers to individuals who identify with a childlike, submissive role and might engage in age play, where they take on a much younger or older age than they actually are, or they may engage in role-play that involves a more nurturing, parental figure (Daddy/Mommy) as their dominant partner. Sexuality is not necessarily involved in this archetype, and it should be noted that there is no link at all with pedophilia (which is not on the BDSM spectrum).

Here are five examples of what a Boy or Girl might do:

  1. Present themselves as younger or more innocent than their dominant partner, through attire, language, and behavior.
  2. Follow the instructions and commands of their dominant partner, submitting to their authority and control.
  3. Engage in age-play, where the Boy or Girl takes on a younger role and their partner takes on the role of a parental figure.
  4. Submit to discipline, punishment, and other BDSM activities as directed by their dominant partner.
  5. Seek affection, comfort, and security from their dominant partner, relying on them for guidance and protection within the BDSM relationship.

Ageplayer

An ageplayer in BDSM takes on a different age identity during BDSM activities. They typically take on a much younger or older age than they are, or they prefer playing with a partner that reflects on this (e.g. Boy/Girl and Daddy/Mommy). Attributes and behavior changes (such as pacifiers, coloring books, speaking in a more childlike language, etc.) are commonly paired with this, to enrich the context and make it more appropriate for the played age. Here again: there is no link at all with pedophilia (which is not on the BDSM spectrum at all).

Here are five examples of what an ageplayer might do:

  1. Engage in role-playing, where they take on the persona of someone younger or older than their actual age.
  2. Dress and behave in a way consistent with their age-play persona, creating a different dynamic in the BDSM relationship.
  3. Submit to the authority and control of their dominant partner, who may take on a parental or caregiver role.
  4. Engage in BDSM activities appropriate for their age-play personas, such as spanking, discipline, or bedtime rituals.
  5. Explore their own boundaries and desires related to age, identity, and BDSM through age-play, seeking to deepen their connection to their dominant partner and the BDSM lifestyle.

Exhibitionist

An exhibitionist is a person in the BDSM community who finds sexual pleasure in exposing their bodies, or sexual acts, to others. They may enjoy being watched or performing in public or semi-public settings. Exhibitionists may engage in acts such as stripping, masturbation, or sexual acts in front of others. This fetish can allow individuals to explore their sexuality, exhibitionism, and the power dynamic of being watched. However, it is essential to note that consent and communication with all parties involved are vital to ensure a safe and enjoyable experience for all.

Here are five examples of what an exhibitionist might do:

  1. Stripping in front of a crowd in a club or at a party
  2. Masturbating in front of a partner or a public setting
  3. Engaging in sexual acts in front of others
  4. Exposing their body in public places, such as a park or beach
  5. Performing in adult films or webcam shows for an audience.

Voyeur

A voyeur in the BDSM context finds pleasure in watching others engage in sexual activities, often without the knowledge or consent of the individuals being watched. The voyeuristic tendencies in BDSM can range from simply observing others in a consensual setting to more extreme forms of exhibitionism, such as secretly watching individuals in public or private spaces. The excitement for the voyeur in BDSM is often rooted in the thrill of observing the taboo and intimate moments of others.

Five Examples of what a voyeur in BDSM may do:

  1. Attend BDSM events or parties to observe others engaging in sexual activities.
  2. Watch live demonstrations or performances at fetish clubs or conventions.
  3. Engage in private voyeuristic activities with a partner, such as peeping or watching through a keyhole.
  4. Secretly watch others engage in sexual activities without their knowledge or consent.
  5. Participate in group voyeuristic scenarios where multiple individuals observe a single sexual encounter.

Experimentalist

An experimentalist in the BDSM context refers to someone open to trying new things and exploring different BDSM practices. They are not necessarily committed to any particular type of BDSM dynamic or role, but instead, they are driven by the desire to experiment and push their boundaries. Experimentalists are often curious, adventurous, and open-minded, and they may be attracted to different BDSM practices for various reasons, including power dynamics, sensory experiences, or emotional and psychological effects.

Here are five examples of what an experimentalist in BDSM might do:

  1. Try out different BDSM roles, such as dominant, submissive, masochist, or sadist.
  2. Experiment with different BDSM activities, such as spanking, bondage, or wax play.
  3. Engage in BDSM play with different partners, including those with varying levels of experience or interests.
  4. Attend BDSM events, workshops, and munches to learn more about BDSM practices and meet others in the BDSM community.
  5. Read books, watch videos, and research online to learn about different BDSM practices, theories, and philosophies.

Non-monogamist

A non-monogamist is someone who practices open relationships and allows for multiple partners, both emotionally and sexually. This type of dynamic can exist in BDSM relationships, allowing for partners to have various BDSM partners in addition to or separate from other non-BDSM relationships. It requires open communication, mutual respect, and strict boundaries and agreements between partners to ensure the safety and comfort of all involved.

Here are five examples of what a non-monogamist may do include:

  1. Engaging in BDSM activities with multiple partners
  2. Being open about other partners or relationships to existing partners
  3. Setting clear boundaries and agreements to ensure the safety and expectations and making sure there is the comfort of all involved.
  4. Consistently practicing safe sex and engaging in regular STI testing.
  5. Continuously practicing open communication and transparency with all partners to maintain the integrity of the relationships.

Switch

A switch is a person who can take on both dominant and submissive roles in different scenarios. A switch may enjoy giving and receiving power, control, or submission.

Some examples of what a switch may do include:

  • Participating in BDSM activities with different partners as either a dominant or submissive
  • Experimenting with different BDSM dynamics and roles
  • Expressing a preference for both dominant and submissive roles
  • Balancing their BDSM experiences between giving and receiving control or power
  • Collaborating with partners to create unique BDSM scenarios catering to their desires.

Top

A Top in the BDSM context plays a dominant role during BDSM plays or scenes. They are responsible for setting the scene, controlling the play, and administering physical or emotional stimulation to their partner, who takes on a submissive role. A Top is in control during BDSM activities and determines the pace, intensity, and type of play.

Five examples of what a Top may do during BDSM play include:

  1. Tying up or restraining their partner
  2. Spanking or flogging their partner
  3. Controlling the amount of pain or pleasure experienced by their partner
  4. They are dominating and controlling their partner verbally or emotionally.
  5. Choose the type of BDSM activities to participate in and guide their partner through them, referred to as “setting the scene.”

Bottom

A bottom is a person who takes on a submissive role. They may enjoy following orders, relinquishing control, and being the recipient of the BDSM activity. They may also enjoy being the one to submit to their partner’s desires and preferences.

Some common examples of a bottom’s actions include:

  1. Following commands and orders from the dominant
  2. Engaging in BDSM activities such as bondage, spanking, or role-playing
  3. Giving up control to the dominant partner in the relationship
  4. Taking pleasure in the dominant partner’s power and control
  5. Receiving physical or emotional pleasure from BDSM activities or the “scenes” a dominant sets

Vanilla

Vanilla refers to people who are not interested in BDSM activities or kinks and prefer traditional, non-kinky sexual practices. The term “vanilla” is used to distinguish these individuals from those who are involved in BDSM or kinky activities. Vanilla individuals may still have kinks and fetishes, but they do not engage in BDSM practices as part of their sexual or relationship experiences.

Here are five examples of what a vanilla person might do:

  1. Engage in traditional sexual practices, such as vaginal intercourse, oral sex, or manual stimulation.
  2. Avoid BDSM activities, such as spanking, bondage, or humiliation play.
  3. Prefer non-kinky sexual experiences, such as cuddling, kissing, or hugging.
  4. They may not be interested in exploring different sexual preferences and prefer to stick with what is comfortable for them.
  5. They may not fully understand or be open to BDSM or kinky activities and may view them as unconventional or taboo.

Fetishist

A fetishist has a strong sexual fixation on a specific object, body part, or non-human entity. In BDSM, fetishists find pleasure and excitement in incorporating their fetishes into their sexual experiences. Common fetishes involve feet, high heels, clothing, or latex.

Here are five examples of what a fetishist might do:

  1. Incorporate their specific fetish into their sexual play, such as wearing latex clothing, high heels or engaging in foot worship.
  2. Seek out partners who are also fetishists or open to exploring and indulging their fetish.
  3. Have a deep emotional and sexual connection to their fetish object and may feel incomplete or unsatisfied without it.
  4. Engage in BDSM activities that involve or enhance their fetish, such as BDSM role play or sensory deprivation.
  5. Continuously seek out new and exciting ways to incorporate their fetish into their sexual experiences, and may become deeply involved in the BDSM community for this reason.

Sadomasochist

A sadomasochist is someone who finds sexual pleasure and gratification in both giving and receiving pain or in dominating and submitting to their partner. They may enjoy the balance of power and control between both roles. They may also enjoy exploring different types of pain, such as spanking, whipping, or flogging.

Here are five examples of what a sadomasochist might do:

  1. Engage in BDSM activities that involve pain, such as spanking, whipping, or flogging.
  2. Take on dominant or submissive roles, depending on their individual preferences and the dynamics of their BDSM relationship.
  3. Enjoy exploring different forms of pain and control, such as bondage, electrical play, or sensory deprivation.
  4. Seek out partners who share their sadomasochistic desires, and engage in BDSM play together.
  5. Be open and communicative about their desires and boundaries, and prioritize the safety and consent of their partner at all times.

Cross-dresser

A cross-dresser wears clothing, accessories, and makeup typically associated with the opposite gender. Cross-dressers may be a form of fetish, fantasy, or role-playing and can be incorporated into many different types of plays and BDSM activities. It can be due to the cross-dresser’s desires or against their will to humiliate or degrade a person.

Here are five examples of what a cross-dresser might do:

  1. Dress in clothing and accessories associated with the opposite gender, such as dresses, skirts, or high heels, for a male cross-dresser.
  2. Experiment with different styles and looks, and may choose to cross-dress for personal enjoyment or in sexual situations.
  3. Seek partners accepting and supportive of their cross-dressing and may engage in BDSM activities while dressing as the opposite gender.
  4. Explore their gender identity and express themselves in a way that feels authentic and fulfilling.
  5. Prioritize consent and communication in their BDSM activities, and ensure that their partner is comfortable and enjoys the experience as much as they do.

The Problem with the Results

The problem with BDSM Tests is definitely that you can only answer what you already know. If you are new to the BDSM world and you only had limited ideas and fantasies, then these questions can quickly become overwhelming and you tend to answer different. With the time when you have experience, when you know the terminologies, when you really experienced the fantasies, then you will have definitely a different answer to most questions. Especially for beginners who learn fast and experience a lot, it can drastically change over time and you will see that you are getting way more into “extremes” of the test and even the results might change completely.

Try to do it in this way (This is from my personal experience):

  1. Understand where you are currently are
  2. Use the results to find someone complimentary
  3. Try to experience everything on the text where you have more than 30% result
  4. Retake the test after a year
  5. Try to dive deeper into topics where your results are min 50%

And iterate over the years over and over. This way you have a systematic testing and validation of your desires to guide you on your journey. If you want to know my test results, then read “About me“.

Limitations of BDSM Tests

While BDSM tests can give some insight into a person’s sexual preferences and desires, it is important to understand that they also have their limitations. Here are a few important points to keep in mind:

  • Subjectivity of questions: questions in BDSM tests are often subjective and may not fully reflect a person’s preferences. The way a question is interpreted can vary greatly from person to person, which can skew the results.
  • Limited scope: BDSM is a broad spectrum that encompasses many different practices and preferences. Most tests cannot cover all aspects of BDSM and may not address certain nuances or specific preferences of individuals.
  • Lack of context: The tests usually do not take into account the context of the person’s experience. For example, someone may have enjoyed a particular practice in a particular scenario but not be interested in it in general.
  • Oversimplification: BDSM tests can oversimplify complex desires and experiences into crude categories such as Dominant, Submissive, Switch, etc. Human sexuality is complex and cannot always be accurately pigeonholed.
  • Potential for misinterpretation: The results of BDSM tests can be misinterpreted or misunderstood and lead people to believe they must fit into certain roles or stereotypes, which is not the case.
  • No substitute for communication: BDSM testing should not be seen as a substitute for open and honest communication between partners about boundaries, interests and consent. This is important in any sexual relationship, but especially in BDSM where it is important to understand and respect each other’s boundaries.

Conclusion on BDSM Tests

It is important to remember that these archetypes are not mutually exclusive and one person may identify with multiple roles or interests. This is why taking BDSM test can be useful in identifying where one falls on the spectrum and what specific aspects of BDSM they may be interested in. Additionally, communication with partners is key in exploring BDSM, as it is important to understand and respect each other’s boundaries and limits.

It is also important to note that BDSM is not a one-size-fits-all concept and what works for one person may not work for another. It is important to explore and discover what works for you and what makes you feel comfortable and safe. As you become more familiar with your own preferences and interests, you can communicate them more effectively to potential partners and explore BDSM in a way that is enjoyable and fulfilling for everyone involved.